Don’t be a nice guy. Be a good guy.
Nice guy = boring, pushover
Good guy = confident, upstanding man who knows his value in the world and respects other people
Nice guys do finish last (if at all). Good guys finish second (after her).
You do not have to be an asshole to get the girl. Trust me. I went from never laid to adequately laid by improving myself.
Women have all these traits they say they look for in a guy. Turns out most of those are “nice guy” qualities. But she still doesn’t fuck nice guys. Why?
Because they’re boring, timid pushovers. She wants a MAN. Not a scared, limp, indecisive schmuck.
A man is confident. He knows his worth. He knows he has a good heart and wishes the best for others. He works hard on improving himself – getting smarter, stronger and more emotionally rounded.
Girls end up fucking the douchebags and assholes of the world not because they like that shitty behavior, but they are attracted to a man who knows what he wants, has the balls to say it/go for it and believes in himself.
Save the women from that horrible fate of being with asshats by growing the fuck up, developing yourself, being interesting and confident. Women will gladly hop on the good guy train for a ride. She’d probably prefer that over the shitheads. But she’d prefer a confident shithead over a weak-minded nice guy.
Here’s an example:
I am super easygoing. It can often be difficult for me to pick a place to eat. I love all kinds of food and will definitely enjoy almost all places with food. So I legitimately don’t care where we go eat. But the girl needs to know that my indecision on where to have dinner is NOT a reflection of indecisiveness in general, that it’s a reflection of my chill nature – something she will enjoy in other aspects of life.
I will look on Yelp, find a few places close to me or her that I’d like to eat (four stars, two dollar signs or less), then text her a few options. I’ll say, “I love all kinds of food. So I looked up some places nearby. You want to do Thai, Mexican or Mediterranean? You pick the type, I’ll let you know which place it is. 8p good?” There’s choices. It shows I put effort into it, whittling down the options from infinite to 3. Which helps her. And now she knows I’m not being lazy or completely indecisive. I legitimately love most food. I also suggest a time. Let her confirm. If she’s completely indecisive, you’ll know by her response. Which can make things more or less difficult, but at least you’ll know the type of girl she is.
Another key thing: have strong opinions.
If you agree with her on something, expand on it – mention something she might not have heard yet. Show your depth of knowledge so it’s more clear that you aren’t just being a ‘yes man’ politely (passively) agreeing with her.
And if you realize that you’re agreeing with her on everything: play devil’s advocate so you can challenge her. A) playing devil’s advocate is fun and B) she likes to be challenged. Call her on her shit. Always. Do NOT let anything fly. She throws a jab at you – do NOT act hurt (unless you’re faking hurt and then throw a jab right back). Jab, jab, jab. Volley. It’s the name of the game.
Conversation should be like tennis – back and forth. She loves a good volley. To have a stronger volley – challenge her, send her shit-tests right back and with some spin, drive shots hard and fast down the line. Keep her off balance. You don’t have to be an asshole to do that.
Save the compliments.
She’s heard a million times from every slobbering idiot that she’s attractive. Don’t be that guy. As soon as you compliment her looks, you lose.
If you do compliment her (and it can be a good opener) – go for her style. She got dressed up to be there. Complimenting her style says a few things: you notice the little things, you aren’t a baboon staring at her ass/boobs, you’re confident enough in yourself and your sexuality to compliment a woman’s style in public and it’s complimenting her decision making – not something she was born with.
Best time to use those compliments on her physique? During/post coitus.
If you need more help or want some guidance to boost your confidence, get better at communicating and get the girl: I’m here to help you.