I see all these negative articles about modern dating.

I don’t know. I could complain a lot too. But I don’t. At least not to many people. And not in public.

Nobody likes complainers.

Like most things in life, dating is what you make of it.

Granted, you could call me out for not dating that much. Or for not caring that much about dating. And both would be valid points.

However, I consider myself quite happy. So, maybe there’s something to the way I do things. And I’m pretty observant. So I’ve noticed a lot of trends and quirks of relationships.

Now, again, I may lack the experience, but I’m pretty astute as an observer and my advice is generally quite helpful. You can take or leave it, but here’s the real talk:

If you don’t like the situation you’re in: leave.

Life is too short to waste time with someone who doesn’t appreciate you. Don’t piss away your life being unhappy with someone you don’t even like that much.

Don’t like a person – disengage. Completely.

Cut ties with people who don’t add value to your life. That includes lovers or wannabe lovers.

If you don’t have the “fuck yes!” feeling about being with them, then don’t be with them. You don’t need a warm body next to you just to have one. Get comfortable being alone. You’ll be much better for it.

Want something different or more? Say so. Go for it. Take action. Don’t just talk.

Hate the way “we” date through apps and whatever? Great. You have a phone. Use it for phone-like things (see: calls and texts).

Don’t like the meat market that is tinder? Sign off. Uninstall. It’s that simple.

Wondering how you’ll meet people? There’s this new thing called going outside and it involves things like putting your screens away, looking at people, then speaking words to them.

But where on earth can you do that? Coffee shops, grocery stores, libraries, the Apple store, the park, the gym, the trail, your friend’s party or your party. We really should have more house parties – they are less expensive (a handle of liquor costs the same as 2 drinks at the club) – and make for great times and better connections.

If you hate what you’ve been getting dating the way you’ve been dating – do something different.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly but expecting a different result. Unplug. Engage your fellow humans.

You’ll adapt to the world around you pretty quickly. You can do this. Go get ’em!